About Us

Our Mission:

Dragon’s Tail ALC is dedicated to creating a safe place to learn, to support fellow community members, and for facilitating safe activities within the community. We are an outlet for expressing and believing in oneself in a judgement-free zone.

Who is Dragon’s Tail?

Dragon’s Tail Alternative Lifestyle Community is a private membership social club for those who choose an alternative lifestyle. It was founded in 2019 with the purpose of providing a safe community for alternative lifestylers in the Sioux Falls and surrounding area. We provide education, support, and social events to bring together and enhance the kink/fetish, BDSM, psychodrama for the healing arts, and other alternative lifestyle communities.

We have a clean and secure location in Sioux Falls, South Dakota, where we host social events, discussion groups, classroom education and a play-space for adults 18 years of age and older who wish to become a member.

While we provide discussion and education groups that are open to the community, you must be a member in good standing to attend any play parties or other hands-on demonstration events.

We are a consent-based organization and will not tolerate nor condone abusive behavior and/or relationships. All potential members are run through the United State Department of Justice Sexual Offender Database, and members are checked annually and/or as needed.

Diversity and Inclusivity

Dragon’s Tail ALC holds diversity in the highest regard. We are a better, stronger, and more connected community when we accept others as they are.

All members must be at least 18 years of age to become a member. Otherwise, we do not discriminate and accept any adults regardless of gender, orientation, relationship status/structure, age, dis/ability, or other classifications.

Sex- and Consent-Positive

Our goal is to provide a welcoming, all-inclusive, consent-based, sex-positive community for any adult who desires to learn, advance, and/or teach alternative lifestyle topics, including BDSM, kink, fetish, LGBTQ+ issues, regardless of who you are.


Communication-between all parties involved, using clear speech and including safe words, signs, or actions.

Consent can only be given with a sound and sober mind uninhibited by fraud, deceit, threat, coercion, or peer-pressure.

Consent is revocable at any time. Repeat, REVOCABLE at any time, by either or all parties involved. Actions that have not been negotiated beforehand, or safe words, signs, or actions that are ignored (consent withdrawn) are a violation!!!

Has limits. Negotiations must be agreed to before a power exchange or BDSM scene or relationship.

Consent is informed. Everyone involved must know enough so that the consent is given on an informed basis to the BDSM activities that are planned or to the power exchange relationship.

Do not use consent to inflict any kind of harm. It should never be used as a defense to do so. Keep in mind it is always possible that you can be prosecuted for assault with or without consent.

We believe that consent is imperative to our lifestyle.

Safe, Sane & Consensual

Safe, sane, and consensual (SSC) is one of the philosophies surrounding ethically acceptable behavior in BDSM, kink, and alternative lifestyle communities. Safe means that the risk of activities should be understood by all participants and either eliminated or reduced as much as possible. Sane refers to the need to approach activities in a sensible and realistic frame of mind, and with an understanding of the difference between fantasy and reality. Consensual means that all participants have freely consented to the activity and were in a state of mind to do so.

Definition from Kinkly.com

As an organization, we believe in this philosophy and have incorporated it in our community.

We are aware of RACK (Risk, Aware Consensual Kink) and PRICK (Personal Responsibility, Informed Consensual Kink) and understand there are those that practice these. However, we will promote SSC at all Dragon’s Tail’s events and gatherings.

What does Dragon’s Tail Do?

We hold monthly munches (informal social gathering for individuals interested in or a part of the BDSM scene) in the Sioux Falls area.

Monthly Lifestyle 101 Classes at our facility, which are free to members and non-members

Discussion/Support groups for Tops, Bottoms and Littles’

Hands-on Demonstrations (Members in good standing only):

Wax, Electric, Rope, Needle, Spanking, Whipping, Sensation Play, Flogging, Etc.

We have a licensed clergy person on staff who can perform marriage ceremonies.

Weekly Play Parties (Members in good standing only)

A Themed Play Party once a month. (Members in good standing only)

We are expanding these as interest demands, and are always open to more ideas.


27063 Sunset Blvd. Suite 101
Sioux Falls, SD 57106

Meet the Team

Dr Monkey Man

Dr. Monkey Man’s biggest passion, besides his wife/sub, is the violet wand. While in Florida he did the monthly Violet Wand Demo/Classes at the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club. He is now the CEO of Dragon’s Tail ALC. He has recently been ordained. So I guess we can call him Rev. Monkey Man. LOL


Our Story

Having been in the BDSM Lifestyle several years now we have come to appreciate having a like-minded community. Dr. Monkey Man and redgarter have lived in both South Dakota and Florida. In Florida they became active in the local community. Joining the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club as members, they soon became volunteers and then part of the management team. Giving back to the community is their passion. Teaching and providing a safe place in which to learn is their goal now that they are back home in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.


Redgarter not only helped Dr. Monkey Man with his demos, while at the Tampa Bay Phoenix Club, she helped run the office. Greeting new members and welcoming them into the club. Giving the orientation and tours to new members. She also worked with the management staff with marketing by helping with social media, creating graphics and posting event. While she still does work for TBPC she is now the General Manager for Dragon’s Tail ALC. Doing all the same things she did before and more.


Before sending redgarter a friend request you must go through Dr. Monkey Man first.

Just one way to keep the creepers away.


Picasso is not only our resident artist, but she also manages our Lifestyle Education program. Each month, she leads our Lifestyle 101 class and brings information to help educate our community members whether they’ve been in the lifestyle for decades or days.

Picasso is our Lifestyle Education Program Manager.


You can contact any of the team at dragonstailalc@gmail.com
or call/text 605-214-7032