Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Q: What about alcohol or drugs?

A: Dragon’s Tail does NOT allow alcohol or drugs, and has a zero-tolerance policy in effect. DO NOT bring them here. Violators will be immediately removed from the club without a refund and banned. We are VERY serious about this. Also, if someone arrives and we believe they are intoxicated or otherwise impaired, we reserve the right to deny them entry for the evening.


We reserve the right to inspect any coolers or beverage/food containers brought into the club and possibly deny certain items be brought in. We are SERIOUS about this rule. NO ALCOHOL means NO ALCOHOL. You can drink any other number of places, including at your own home.

NOTICE: If you take a beverage outside, upon reentry, the cup/container MUST BE EMPTY.

Q. Will I have to pay for towels, water, or sodas?

A: Dragon’s Tail provides many refreshments for free, including water, soda, and coffee. We have a coffee machine, and cups. Ice is in the freezer, and bottles of soda are in the fridge.

Yes, you may bring your own food. Also, yes, you may bring an empty reusable cup/water bottle of your own to use all evening. (We thank you for that because it saves us a few pennies!)

We also have a limited number of blankets and towels available for use for free. Please do NOT use them for wax play! Also, when finished, please deposit them in one of the laundry hampers provided, thanks!

Q: What is the minimum age?

A: You must be at least 18 years of age or older to attend/join. You must present a valid government photo ID with your date of birth on it if you are a guest or a new member applicant, and at renewals. This is NOT optional. (Driver’s license/state ID, military ID, passport, etc.) Upon initial joining/renewal, we run EVERYONE through the USDOJ database of registered sex offenders and need to verify your age and legal name.

Q: I am het/gay/trans/CD/disabled/single/______. Am I welcomed?

A: We welcome ANY person who is 18 or older and agrees to abide by our rules, regardless of their gender, orientation, or identification on the LGBTQ rainbow, or their kink interests. (Provided they are NOT a registered sex offender.)

Please note: our staff does their best to properly pronoun and not misgender people. If you have a preferred pronoun and we are mistakenly using the wrong one, please let us know! Or if you have a preferred name besides your legal/dead name, please let us know that so we can note it. Thanks!

Q: What about my safety? Will I be hit on every five minutes?

A: Contrary to misconceptions perpetrated in popular media, people who attend events are not at any greater risk than anyone attending public events. All new members are given the newbie talk where we go over rules, protocols, and expectations, so everyone’s on the same page. As with any social gathering, people might approach you to talk. If at any time you feel uncomfortable, please immediately approach one of our volunteers to intervene.

Q: Do you have a dress code? What do I wear? How revealing must I be?

A: Some events are street legal/casual wear. (Check the event description for more info.) Some events have a “theme.” Theme nights (unless otherwise specified in the event description) are always optional, and we do not turn people away for how they’re dressed as long as they arrive street-legal. (And you’re not stinky because you haven’t bathed in a year or something. LOL) By “street-legal” we mean you must have the “pink bits” covered. Whether it’s casual clothes, or full formal fetish, or your leathers, or a sexy dress, or full latex or shorts and a T-shirt, or you’re a cross-dresser, or you wear your unicorn onesie–we honestly do NOT care.

By “street-legal” it means you need to arrive covered in such a way that at the very least if you’re walking downtown Sioux Falls it won’t get you arrested for indecent exposure.

HOWEVER, when you arrive and first walk through our office front door, please do NOT be wearing a mask/hood upon initial entry, or at least have it tipped up so we can see your face. Two reasons–safety issue for our staff and members, and we need to verify your identity before allowing you entry for the event/night. Once we’ve checked you in and have given you a wristband, feel free to run around in a full polar bear costume all night, if you want.

As far as regular play events, we ask everyone to either arrive in normal street clothes and change when you get here, or be covered up “street-legal” upon arrival. So, anything you feel comfortable in. Full fetish gear, to street clothes, to nothing at all. It’s all welcome once you’re inside. Fetish wear is admired, not required. We do ask if you are naked, or otherwise attired in such a way as your bare bottom might be touching furniture, that you sit on a towel.

Note that for non-play events and classes, the attire is usually street/casual clothes, and nudity is NOT allowed at events like munches/coffee times, 101 classes, etc.

Q: What about photography (outside of photography nights/classes)?

A: Outside of our special photography events, ABSOLUTELY NO photography of any kind is allowed without prior permission from management, direct supervision by a DM during the photography, and immediate review of the photos by a DM before the photographic device is allowed to be removed from the premises. Anyone caught taking unauthorized pictures or video will have their device immediately confiscated by management, the pictures/video deleted from the device, and will be immediately removed and banned from the premises.

Q: Do you allow sex in your club? Is this a swinger club? Are you a sex club? Are you a strip club? Do you have private rooms?

A: NO.

We ARE a sex-positive club–we’re positive you CANNOT HAVE SEX IN OUR CLUB.

We do NOT allow sex in our club, and we are NOT a swingers club. If you have any questions about what activities are permitted and prohibited, please ask staff BEFORE you play.

We are NOT a sex club. We are NOT a strip club. We do NOT have paid performers/players, and we do NOT have staff performers/players. This is a private membership club.

Q: Do you have private rooms? Can I just drop by to look around?

A. No, we do not have private rooms. No, you can’t just drop in and look around. We are not a side show. You must be a member in good standing to come inside.

Q: I saw someone playing and want to meet them. What’s the best way?

A: Being polite is always a good first step. If the person is not engaged in a scene or aftercare, simply ask if they can talk, introduce yourself, and talk with them. Don’t be rude or pushy. And if they decline to talk, or don’t want to play, please respect that.

Q: Do I have to play? Is it mandatory?

A: No and NO! Never allow yourself to be drawn into a situation where you will be uncomfortable. Forget the nonsense you’ve read in books about uncollared submissives being grabbed and forced to play. That DOES NOT HAPPEN. Think of it as a kinky bar…without alcohol. You might have someone approach you and want to talk. And like in any other normal social situation, if you’re uncomfortable, either disengage from them, or approach a staff member to intervene. That’s what they’re there for. Some people only come to watch or socialize with friends. Participation is never required. We view ourselves as a kinky community center.

Q. I’m looking for a pro-Dom/me.

A. Sorry, we do not work with any pro-Dom/mes, and we do not give referrals or recommendations. We also do NOT provide play partners for people. This is a private membership club.

Q. I am a pro-Dom/me and want to attend.

This is a private membership club. You are welcomed to join and become a member, but you may NOT use our facility for commercial BDSM activities. Our rules prohibit commercial/pay-to-play/professional BDSM activities. Anyone found in violation of this rule will be ejected, banned from the premises, and their membership revoked, without refunds.

Also, while you are here, do not engage in business discussions about adult-related business, like trying to set up a porn shoot, or telling people you’re a professional Dom/me, etc. If you are approached by anyone with those kinds of discussions, please bring it to a staffer’s attention so they can take the person outside and go over the rules with them.

NOTE: You CAN discuss things like photography TECHNIQUES, things like that.

Q. Can you hook me up to play with someone? Do you have people on staff to play with? Can I join your staff as a Top/bottom?

A. Sorry, we neither provide play partners, nor do we facilitate hook-ups. Our staff is an all-volunteer staff, and we do NOT provide play partners. The best way to meet new play partners is to get out to community events (like coffee times and munches) and talk to people. It usually takes attending a regular event a minimum of three times before someone relaxes enough to actually start meeting and connecting with people. So don’t attend once and never return. Everyone was new once. The more you get out and meet people, the easier it is to talk to people. Do some of our volunteers play? Yes, because we’re all members of the club. But do not arrive with the expectation that you’ll be able to arrange for someone to play with you.

Be courteous.
Do not touch people, or possessions, that do not belong to you.
If you have any questions, ask FIRST.
NO means NO, and we are serious about that. If someone tells you NO, respect it. They do NOT owe you an explanation.

Our universal safeword is RED. If you need immediate outside assistance during a scene, call out MAYDAY. (Health issue, equipment failure, suspension going wrong, etc.)

Any edge play must be cleared with DMs/staff first to make sure we can accommodate it and to ensure your play isn’t accidentally interrupted mid-scene. We do our best to accommodate players and their scenes. (Fire play/fire cupping, knife scenes, medical play, etc.)

Clean all equipment immediately after use with the provided wipes, and dispose of all trash in the provided garbage cans. We provide a sharps container as well. (The sharps container is ONLY for sharps. We have plastic bags for gloves, gauze, etc.)